Wednesday, June 14, 2006

Can you please direct me to the closest boarding school that is now accepting 2 year olds?

TAKE A LOOK AT THIS
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Yup it happened again. In case you're having a hard time reading the really 'great' part. It says, Jessica wasn't a good girl at all. She almost made me give up teaching but as I was walking out the door she took her nap.
Embarassed, pissed off, mad, frustrated, disappointed, concerned, upset and pretty much wondering why out of 18 kids mine is the one that's the worst of them all. One thing I'm not....willing to chalk this up to "oh well, she's almost 3, this kinda stuff happens"
Something has go to give and quick. In addition to seeing a movie with girlfriends (way needed) I'll be stopping off at the book store and picking up anything referring to how to Parent a hard to handle child. I'll do the best I can at staying away from the isle of books that may referrence boarding schools where I can drop off this 2 year old. Please feel free to help with any type of book recommendations or anything else that may help me from bursting into tears.
sidenote: Jessica has been at school almost one year and her teacher and I have become good friends, her comment above was more of a joke...but a joke that was trying to get the point across. I have asked Ms Wendy serveral times if Jessica was making her wanna quit. I love Ms Wendy, she a big ole gal who doesn't take any lip, she's great. Who else in their right mind would want to take charge of 18 two year old's and potty train all of them.

14 Comments:

At 4:32 PM, Blogger cheamyname said...

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At 4:45 PM, Blogger Joannah said...

Those aren't the PC comments I have to put on my students' progress reports. That teacher doesn't mince words, does she?

 
At 6:57 PM, Blogger Emily said...

My daughter is the same age as Jessica-- she'll be 3 next month. She has been in and out of phases of defiance and we found a system this week that really seems to be working. SHe really wants a dora skooter- so we decided she needed to earn it with good behavior.i got a jar and had her decorate it with stickers and put a picture of her skooter in there. then i made a list of things she could do to earn chips (poker chips). for example, she has been needing to work on manners, using a fork, cleaning her room, etc. every time she does one of things- she gets a chip. any time she doesn't or whines (ARGHH) she gets a chip taken away. so far it's worked wonderfully- she's 1/2 way to her skooter (she needs 50 chips). hang in there!!! (ps- love your blog- read it all the time:)

 
At 7:37 PM, Blogger daphne & greg said...

Hang in there, it will get better. Then she will become a teen and you really will want send her to boarding school.

 
At 9:21 PM, Blogger casey said...

We have all been there! We did the same idea runnergirl said when Liam was about three and it really worked. We used quarters. Good behavior got him a quarter; bad behavior took one away. Etc, etc. It worked pretty well. He still had moments... trust me... but he is now a fairly respectable six year-old and he is living in our home (not boarding school) so that's a good thing. (I think :)

I agree with Joannah too... the language the teacher used is a bit rough... I'm a high school teacher and although I may have thought similar thoughts on certain days I never would have told a parent that! Yikes...

 
At 4:08 AM, Blogger Meg said...

I'm with the majority on this one- the token system worked here too. She may also be beginning to exhibit her "sibling rivalry"- my son didn't show us he had any problems with being a brother until after the baby was 6 months old...it can happen at any time (or anywhere unfortunately). Try the token system and I found it is more successful if the kid (I know she is only 2) has SOME say in it...even if it is only choosing the jar the tokens/marbles go in. I'm sure you are exhausted....but maybe tell her if she has a "happy face day" at school she gets 15 alone minutes with you after school? Tough I know.....I'm sorry you both are going through this. Hope it gets better soon.

 
At 5:07 AM, Blogger Meg said...

I have to agree- the token system worked for us too. I found it was more successful when the child had some say in the process....I let Jr. Spaceman choose the jar and what we used for the tokens (multi colored marbles).....Is it possible that she is just beginning to realize Emma is staying and this is a bit of sibling rivalry too?- Jr. Spaceman started showing signs of this about 6 months after Monkey Man was born (although he was never aggressive toward the baby- he was "naughty"....) maybe try telling her she gets x amount of time alone with you after school if she has a "happy day".....just a thought.

 
At 7:56 AM, Blogger Stacey Teague said...

OK, I was thinking about this last night and (I know your teacher was joking about quitting, and I just love that kind of humor). ... do you think that Jess is acting up because she knows Emma is home with you? Or maybe it's her jealousy of the baby coming out?? Maybe the honeymoon is over for her?? Just some thoughts....

 
At 8:00 AM, Blogger jaj said...

First of all, love the new banner! Secondly, I have to agree with Meg about the sibling rivalry. You mentioned earlier that Emma's personality is really starting to show - maybe Jessica feels that she needs to act out to get more attention. Two-year-olds (my opinion) don't care if it's good attention or bad attention just as long as it's attention, and if Jessica thinks that Emma is getting more attention than she is, then she's more apt to behave in manners that will get her attention. KWIM? Anyway, hang in there - This too shall pass.

 
At 8:33 AM, Anonymous Jay said...

Like Stacey said, if she was good before, it may be the fact that Emma is getting attention and it's less for her. There probably are many good books on multi-child parenting. Don't know if they are related, but they are very close in time.

 
At 10:49 AM, Blogger Lisa~~ said...

Check out Playful Parenting by Lawrence Cohen. It teaches you almost how to roleplay with your child so that each of you can see the other's point It allows you to find ways to change the child's behavior.

 
At 10:53 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

As a teacher and parent I've been on both sides of the fence and its equally hard. One book I can recommend as a counseling student is the Positive Discipline books, particularly A-Z and others that deal with your daughter's age. I found them at Half Price books for 5 bucks.

D

 
At 2:02 PM, Blogger Pam said...

What type of preschool program is it? Could she be a bit bored by it?
Jessica seems like a super smart kid. I'd put her in a Montessori classroom asap....she'll be so engaged and stimulated with interesting "work" that she won't have a second to act out.
Have you ever observed in a Montessori classroom? The first time I saw one, I removed my child from their regular preschool that week and enrolled right away.
Your kids are so cute!
Pam

 
At 9:46 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Aimee - I see a little glimpse into my future when I read your blog!!! =) Courtney

 

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